Inner game (self worth/feeling) is, in my opinion, one of the most important aspects of gaming itself. Just as important as outer game (pickup, conversation skills, etc). Why? Because if you don’t have confidence, you will never talk to a woman you are attracted to. Atleast not in a “I’m going to hit on this woman” type of way. Women are attracted to confidence. Confidence is Alpha. How is a man that is afraid to talk to little ol’ her, gonna protect her in the world. He’s not. She will think this. You don’t want her to. So be confident. I know what it’s like to get the butterflies before walking up to a beautiful stranger to try to start conversation. I still get AA (Approach Anxiety). But because I have excellent inner game, I continue to plow through. It’s like walking across a busy street with a pebble in your shoe. It’s uncomfortable, but your not gonna stop in the middle of the street, take off your shoe, get the pebble out, etc. Your gonna keep walking until you get to where you need to be. It’s easier said than done, but actually doing is the only way anything I’m writing is gonna work. You must destroy those fears of embarrassment, resentment and ridicule. Those are all in your head. It’s only your ego that your protecting, not your life or future. Just the ego. You gotta let all that shit go if you want to be Alpha to women and the rest of the world. The ego is your enemy when it comes to almost anything, but especially in picking up women. I’m gonna go over a few things that will help you get over some of those implanted insecurities, as well as explain why they are there.

The best advise I can give you in developing inner game is going about it the same way I did: Movies and Music. Now I’m not talking about watching and imitating some action star to learn how to be an Alpha. That might help your outer, but not your inner. I’m talking about viewing things that really do change the way you perceive the world and yourself. The first film I will tell you to watch is Fight Club. Without question, that movie upped my inner game like no other. It’s not the actual events or scenarios that take place in the film, rather the philosophy that the main characters eventually live by. “This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time”, “Your not your wallet, your car, how much money you have in the bank. Your not your fuckin’ khakis”. “You have to realize that someday you WILL die. Until you know that…you are useless”. Get what you want now, because the worst case scenario is that you will die…which is gonna happen anyway. So take chances now because you never know when your time might be up. You don’t want to live your life being afraid of experiencing it. You don’t want to be boring and passive? So don’t. As far as music from the movie goes, listen to Tom Waits’ “Goin’ out West”. It depicts the mindset and emotion of someone who KNOWS that their an Alpha to aT. Also grab and watch Revolver by Guy Ritchie and Magnolia starring Tom Cruise. Tom’s Character in the film is rumored to be based on pickup guru Ross Jefferies. Without ruining anything for you, Revolver deals with exactly what I spoke of before…ego. Just watch it and you’ll understand.

Another way of destroying insecurities is recognizing the feeling that comes with them. The next time your out and you see a beautiful woman, be determined to talk to her. Really have it in your mind that your going to approach her. Start to. No matter who you are, you should experience that gut feeling telling you “don’t do it”. At that moment I want you to memorize that feeling. Try to keep it going, and then tell yourself that it’s not real. That you will be doing her a favor by talking to her and her group of friends. Make that feeling go away by talking to yourself. Telling yourself that the feeling is a lie. That you accept yourself and thats all that matters.That she should be so lucky. I know that it sounds like a bunch of self-help garbage, but if you have AA, why not try it? AA is not just a mental but a physical response to what your mind and body deem dangerous. It’s your body telling itself that if you approach someone, theres a big chance that you’ll end up with mental damage that would be just as serious as physical. That would be great if women were werewolves or lions…but there not. Their just people. Most often times, their people that you’ll probably never see again. So why not take the chance? YOUR NOT GOING TO DIE FROM TALKING! No matter how bad a rejection might be, it’s not gonna kill you. Once you realize this, you’ll be unstoppable. If your not getting laid at all, and for every 50 you talk to 49 will tell you to fuck off and the 1 will go home with you, well then talk to 50. None of the 49 are gonna pull out a gun and blow out your brains . None. So take the chance! Realize that there is no need for fear. And if you’re not afraid, you’re confident.

Go to your bathroom mirror. Stare at yourself. Dead in the eyes. Try to keep them from moving and jittering. Get relaxed and comfartable with yourself. Breath. Doing this will help you accept who you are and thus, build your confidence. Body language will do this as well. When you walk and stand, keep your chin up, shoulders back, and back straight. Don’t look down when people are walking towards you. Be conscious of this. It may feel a little weird at first, but in time it will become natural and real. Walk upright with your eyes straight and head up, and crowds will part like the red sea. Alpha. Thats what you will scream when you have this kind of swagger. Breath from your stomach and not your chest. Be not only relaxed, but grateful with who you are. Never wish to be someone else, and others will wish to be you.

A great way of getting rid of AA is also being a dumb-ass. What I mean is doing or saying stupid shit in front of women that you otherwise would try to be on your best behavior around. Go to a group of hot ladies and tell them you like to get pooped on. Tell them that your priest touched you and you liked it. Tell them you want to ride a unicorn naked. Tell them anything. The point is that when you walk away…you’ll still be here. You’ll realize that your not going to explode if women think your an idiot. Do this to every group of women you see at the bar for an entire night, and the next time you go out, regular conversation won’t seem so scary. It will in fact be a relief. I’ve heard stories of guy’s walking around with dildos on their heads or wearing prom-dresses to the mall to get over AA and to build inner-game. Good ideas. I’m not saying go out and do that, but it might help if your AA feels as bad as having a panic-attack.

Look, I’m not Tony Robbins. I don’t have some secret word that will make you feel like an untouchable superman. Sorry. But what I can tell you is this: Unless it has something to do with death or family….it’s not that big of a deal. Especially when it comes to picking up women. Even the best PUA’s crash and burn here and there. We just know its no biggie and move on. Being afraid to approach women, doing it anyway, and getting laid is way better than being afraid to approach and doing nothing. Trust me on that. May the force be with you my young Jedi-Pimps.

BEWM

When giving any type of advise or teaching, many will offer the dos. I, on the other hand, find it’s more efficient when discussing the art of game to start with the do not’s. The pick-up artist must always be the exception to the rule. He must not just be part of the crowd. He can’t be another guy doing the same old thing that the other guys do in order to get the girl. Doing so would be stagnant, predictable, and boring. Women love excitement, intrigue, adventure, and surprise. In this post, I’ll let you in on a few things that most normal guys do while gaming girls and why they are wrong to do. Some of these might be obvious, while some might be things you never noticed or never thought of yourself. Either way, trust that the following habits, quirks, and routines should be avoided at all cost.

First: The “Hard” look

I see it all the time. Guy’s walking into and around bars or clubs looking like their about to step into the octagon to fight for the heavy-weight championship. The fight face. The “I’m in the zone” face. The “I dare a motherfucker to fuck with me face”. Yeah, good luck getting laid with that one. While it is is true that women value someone that can protect them and their possible offspring from danger, this high value is a subconscious one. There is a need to be the toughest guy in the room. Women do respond to it. Only they don’t see it the way that most men think they do.

The quality that women respond to that is connected with the thought of being tough and or the protector is called Alpha. As in “Alpha Male”. This is the number one quality women, whether they know it or not, look for in a potential mate. This high valued quality stems from centuries of pre-programed survival techniques. If a woman wanted to survive in less civilized times, she need an Alpha mate to protect her (not being sexist, thats just the way it was). If a women wanted to make sure that she and her children would survive the harsh wilderness and winter to come, she would try to make the best hunter/gatherer of the tribe her mate. The Alpha male of the tribe. Through social evolution, this value of the alpha still remains. Since there is no longer a need for great hunters or swords men, a women will determine who an Alpha is differently now.

Today the number one quality of an Alpha Male is….the smile. Thats it. Simple and plain. A smile. Why? That is also simple. A smile says so much about a person. If you walk into a bar, smiling before you’ve even entered, it says: I’m comfortable with my surroundings, even though I might have never been here before. I was having a good time outside this place and I don’t need anyone in here to make me happy. If you want to be around someone who is having fun and is happy, you should be around me. Thats Alpha. Being your own leader and loving who you are no matter what everyone else is doing. This is why the “Tough guy” face never works and just ends up with you being isolated. Most people who try to look hard end up looking bored. And if you bored…your boring. The other qualities of an Alpha are as follows:

1. Convey a sense of humor ( be witty, not goofy. DON’T LAUGH AT YOUR OWN JOKES!)
2. Be a social center. Have social proof (Try to be cool with everyone. This will also help lower later cock-blocking).
3. Be well groomed ( Keep the beard but get rid of the stubble. Dress relaxed, not sloppy).
4. Be Confident (Walk up-right. Chin up. Shoulders back. Igor never got any ass)
5. Connect with people.

Second: Buying a drink

This is seriously one of the things that makes me laugh the most when I’m out and about. It also makes me feel so bad for some guys. Here is the scenario: Guy sits next to two or three chicks at a bar. Guy jumps into a their convo uninvited. Chicks humor him. Guy offers to buy them all drinks. They accept. Drinks come. Girls grab drinks, say thanks (or not), and walk off. Guy is alone with a $24 hole in his wallet. Seen this happen? Had this happen to you? Probably has. I used to think that a woman accepting a drink meant she was interested in me. I found out that it just meant the obvious: Woman wanted a free drink. Drinks are expensive. Have you ever turned down a free one? Probably not often. So why doesn’t this work while gaming? Simple. IT SCREAMS LOWER VALUE!!!

If some guy offered you alot of money just to hang out with him and be his friend, you might accept. Money is money after all. However, you wouldn’t think that he was a cool guy. You’d probably think he was pathetic….get my point. It’s the same thing. Women respond to Demonstrations of Higher Value (DHV). Buying a woman a drink (or anything actually, unless she is your girlfriend) is a Demonstration of Lover Value (DLV). Even if she asked you to buy her one, say no! When I come across a situation where a woman I’m gaming ask me for a drink, I respond with one of a number of things:

• “I’ll bet you for one”. Here I’ll make a bet that I know I can’t lose (using a few PUA routines that I’ll get into later). If she wins, I’ll buy her a drink. If she loses, She buys me one.
• “I don’t buy women drinks”. Plain and simple. Not explanations. Just move on with the conversation.
• “I don’t feel like drinking anymore right now”. This does two things: Gets you out of buying the drink and makes it appear that you two are on a similar level with each other. Like a friend who suggest going somewhere that you don’t want to go to. You both don’t go.

Third: Walking around aimlessly

LOCK IN! What does that mean? It means find a spot in the bar/club/party to hang out at. If your seen entering a place, then walking around without talking or knowing anyone, then ending up right back where you started, you lose all social proof. It’s what we call “ruining the field” (the field being any location that you choose to game in). Remember, you want to look confident and comfortable in your surroundings. Find a wall, a chair, or the bar itself and lean on it while continuing to smile. Make it truly look as though you are at home. Relaxed. Not slouching over and bored. Not upright and at attention, waiting for something to happen. Relaxed. Be an Alpha!

Fourth: Drink at your chest

Stop this now! I know you do this. You get a beer or a cocktail at the bar, turn around to walk away, and your holding it right at the center of your chest. The next time you go out, just look around. See how many guys are doing the exact same thing I’m talking about. EVERYONE OF THEM! Remember, the pick-up artist must be the exception to the rule. Why is holding your drink at your chest such a big deal? One word: Insecurity. This is a subconscious response that not many are aware of. What you are doing isn’t putting your drink in a comfortable spot. Rather, you are simply covering your heart. Yes, the heart. This action shows that you are not fully comfortable being where you are and that you are protecting your self. From now on, keep that Jack and Coke at your side! It will be hard at first ( it literally took my roommate two months to break the habit), but you can do it. This knowledge of protecting the heart will come on handy when we discuss obtaining a phone number, but that will come later on down the line.

Fifth: “Hi, my name is…”

Who cares? Seriously. Unless your a door to door salesmen, stop starting conversations this way. Or by asking what her name is. You tell her your name, she’s thinking: “So?”. You ask her name, she’s thinking, “Why?”. I’ll get into how to properly start a conversation with a woman in tomorrow’s class, but as of right now, stop doing this. This reeks of desperation, unoriginallity, and”nice-guyness”. And as we all know: Nice guys finish last. It’s none of your business what her name is and you haven’t DHV’ed enough for her to care who you are. Make sense?

Those are the top five bad habits that most men do while trying to score. Stop doing them and you’ll see the difference it makes. See you guys tomorrow. Class dismissed.

BEWM

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Hello true believers! Welcome to Pick-Up 101. Here I will discuss, dissect, and analyze all things game related. From the initial first encounter of the fairer sex, to meeting the parents. Now let me assure you, I’m not some guy sitting in front of a computer screen regurgitating information from books, T.V., and the web. I am what I write. I’ve been part of the PUA community going on 3 years now. Not long enough to be a P.U.G. (pick up guru), but long enough to be called a M.P.U.A. (master pick up artist). When I stared on my journey my number (meaning how many different women I had bedded) was around 12. Thats it. From 0 to age 25. Within the last three years that number is 100+ with none of those women being under a 7 on the 1-10 scale (a true PUA never goes under a 7…ever!). This is my passion. The art of seduction. The art of getting what you want from the opposite sex. I am here to help you learn that art the same way I was helped. The best thing about learning this art, this science, is that…it’s not hard. It’s not something thats gonna weigh down your mind. It’s learning about the most fun, exciting, stimulating, and important topic for men…women! What could be better than that? I’ll be showing you skills from all types of systems including but not limited to: Speed Seduction, MM (Mystery Method), NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and my own theories and ideas. Even if you have no trouble getting laid (which I hope is the case), everyone could always use a little tip or hint on how to deal with certain situations. Hell, I’m still learning myself, still evolving everyday as a PUA. My point is that you can take this info how you want to take it. Either with a grain of salt or the whole damn shaker full. The ball is in your court. You can either pass or shoot it.

Now I know that their are alot of people that despise the idea that there is a system or various ones that teach men how to meet and attract women. I completely understand this. I use to be one of those people. Some, albeit not many anymore, of my friends are those people. But like the late great Bruce Lee once said, “Absorb all that is useful, and throw away that which is not”. If you read just one thing from my following post that helps you in anyway in your current or future relationships, then my job is done. Remember that no matter who the teacher is, you can always learn something new from anyone. You would not believe how many of my boys laughed at the fact that I was using “techniques” to get laid, then “tested” said techniques themselves with amazing results. None of what I’m going to write has to do with luck, how you look, or what kind of job you do or don’t have. Women and people in general don’t respond to those things. They respond to stimulus. What you give them to respond to is what matters.

If you want to stop going into a club or bar, wondering if you should go talk to that group of girls. If you want to stop being on dates with long pauses saying “Soooooo” over and over again. If you want to stop being in the bedroom making out and hearing “I don’t think we should do this”, then you’ve come to the right class my friends. Today is my B-day so this will just be an introduction. The actual lessons start tomorrow. Hope to see you there. Game on.

BEWM

Pick-Up: 101

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